Monday, July 4, 2011

   This week I have the privilege of hosting Bianca Sommerland. 
    My history with Bianca goes waaaay back!! 
    See, back in the day....(2010, LOL!!) before I started hosting authors HERE, I started a little thing we called "paying it forward" on my personal website and Bianca was the first and only author to have ever been spotlighted there.
    The response to author spotlight requests picked up, that dim bulb in my brain found a power surge and I started using "Sealed with a Kiss" (duhhh, a blog) to host guest authors... and the rest is, as they say.... HISTORY!
    Bianca was also the FIRST EVER guest author here as well and having just checked the date of that spotlight, December 30th 2010, I find it quite fitting that she's here just in time for another round of firework season, as this is the 4th of JULY!!
    A lot has changed since then, and today, Bianca has more titles under her belt. I'm so happy that she's here again. 
    Welcome back Bianca!! 
    Let's take a look at the goodies you've brought for show and tell......


    Lydia awakes, bound and blind, to the whispered urgings of a man who has his hands on her. His words confuse her at first, but she soon understands they are both in the middle of a performance that will determine whether she remains in captivity or dies. The crowd must be entertained, and her cellmate makes sure it is.
    Forced submission is not the only horror Lydia endures. She has no memories of life before her imprisonment, and Joe, her cellmate, is her only comfort as the powerful creatures that hold them captive torture and debase her. Together, she and Joe cling to the will to survive long enough to break free and seek revenge. Their desire to sustain one another triumphs over their wardens' efforts to destroy them. There is no pain, no suffering, that can tear them apart.
    Beyond their cell, their love is tested. Can they hold strong in the face of the challenge of the new powers they have gained along with their freedom?  
Show and Tell wouldn't be complete with only the "show", so sit back and let's hear a little more from Bianca...

Why Not a Ménage?
    Okay, for those of you who don't know me, I write ménage. Not because group sex is popular or because I fantasise about being double tagged (not saying I don't, but that's beside the point ) but because I like giving my characters everything and anything they want. Then I find ways to make them miserable.
    Can I write a story without a ménage? Absolutely. I have a couple in the works, but I find sticking with a simple relationship involving just two people more challenging than doing one with three or more. Why? Well, because I spend a lot of time developing my secondary characters. Making them likeable. And if they're likeable, why not include them in the action?
    In the real world there are plenty of reasons to avoid open relationships, or even committed relationships with more than one partner. Most of us were raised to view monogamy as ideal. The concept of being the one and only is so romantic. But at the same time, I think many of us have been in a situation where we…well, you know, the whole having cake and wanting to eat it too thing. Don't you find that saying funny? What else are you supposed to do with cake? Put it on a shelf and let it get all stale?
   So to me, the question isn't why should I make a story a ménage. The question is 'Why not?'. Is the hero possessive? Can the heroine deal with him being like that? Has she ever loved before? Has he? Can they satisfy each other's needs?
    See, when I'm writing a ménage, the hero might be possessive, but he's more concerned with making sure his woman is completely satisfied—both in and out of bed—than with keeping her all to himself. In Rosemary Entwined, this concept was easy because Rosemary actually needs all the men to survive.      In Deadly Captive, the ménage they participate in willingly is a bit more complicated—but I won't spoil it for you. The point is, both these stories are fantasy, so blurring the lines of what's acceptable is pretty easy.
    But what about in a contemporary story? Still fiction, but these people are stuck in the real world. What reasons could they possibly have to get involved in a polyamourus relationship? What's wrong with them?
    To my mind, absolutely nothing. This might not be a popular opinion, but I think some people aren't wired to be monogamous. Actually, many would say most men aren't. Other's would point out women's hormones drive them to 'mate' with the strongest and settle down with gentle, caring providers. That doesn't sound monogamous to me.
    All that aside, sex obviously isn't all about having babies. Whips and chains don't increase fertility. Getting in bed with another woman won't make me a better mother. But if that's what gets me off, it's all good, right?
    Now, what if I couldn't enjoy sex unless I had more than one partner? Would that be any different? Obviously, some people will argue it is, but me, I figure as long as it's legal…no, scratch that. Sex in public isn't legal. Polygamy isn't legal. Having sex with someone you're not married to is even worse! It's a sin!
    All right, how's this. So long as the partners are consenting adults—we're not getting into non-con here, did that in another post ;) –and aren't hurting anyone (any more than they want to be hurt), it's all good.
    But still, all that doesn't answer my original question. Why not a ménage? Lack of options? Social norm? If you're writing erotic romance, and there's an attraction between more than a pair of characters, why deny them?
    Well, I guess it depends on the author. And on the characters. If you're aiming for a Happily Ever After, then by the end of the story, the hero and heroine should both be feeling—in the words of Jerry Maguire— 'You complete me.'
    If not, well, maybe there's someone missing.

Thanks so much for having me here again, Robin. I love what you've done to the place! :)

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  1. I loved Rosemary and Im looking forward to the latest book Bianca.

    I'll be checking in all week hun!

  2. Getting in bed with another woman won't make me a better mother.

    How do you know? If it's what's right for you, then *not* getting in bed with another woman might ruin your temperament, which would make you a sucky mother.

  3. Thanks, Rawiya! ((Hugs))

    And yes, Amber, I suppose that's possible, but I might also say letting your sex life affect your parenting is a completely different issue. I do know that not having my needs met can make me unhappy-I think we've all been in that position at some point-but as a mother, I've learned to put certain things aside.

    Not everyone can do that, so props to them for knowing what how to get what they need. I'm lucky enough to have a very vivid imagination. Not as good as the real thing, but it does the job ;)

  4. That's the thing about writing and reading romance. The genres stretch all the way across the board from "closed door" sex right into the "public group" thing, so there is A LOT of area for someone to find what they are comfortable reading.
    I have my own opinion about graphic sex in romance and I tend to keep it to myself, however, the point is that no matter what I think, like it or not, agree or disagree, someone somewhere has written something that IS right up my alley and I can leave what I don't care for to those who do.
    Did my rambling make any sense? LOL!
    As long as there is a happily ever after... I'm happy for everyone involved. Hehehe!
    Damn, I sound like a politician.... oh no, that would be far worse than kinky sex...yikes!! ;-)

  5. Made plenty of sense, Robin!

    Only one long as there's a HEA? Please give me a shout before you read anything of mine-HEA, or even HFN, is not required in all of my books. I'm pretty mean to my characters.

  6. Hey Bianca!! Duly noted! LOL!
    As far as HEA or HFN is concerned, and correct me if I am wrong since I am very new to the romance industry, but to be considered "romance", it's supposed to be one or the other. Right?
    Now, what that entails as far as the endings go may be subjective based upon what the particular characters in a story consider HEA or HFN, but as a rule,(or so I have been told) that's what makes it a romance, whether it's M/F, F/F, M/M. M/F/M, F/M/F, M/M/M, F/F/F and so on.
    My books are all regular romance, with paranormal elements in most of them.
    The second book, Forbidden, in my first trilogy, Journey of the Damned, ended with a cliffhanger and I took some flack for it, but after great debate, it was decided that it was a pivotal moment in the entire story line and they allowed it. I held my breath there for a while.
    Now if a novel is published as something other than "romance" then anything goes and character may need to duck. LOL!
    I'll be reading Deadly Captive as soon as I can! It's on my TBR list!!

  7. You have to follow your heart and your muse, Bianca! And you do that wonderfully. Keep it up, Love and you'll go far.

  8. I totally agree, Biance. I love, love, love ER books that go into the the psychology and the impact of these unconventional romances. Why do they start? What impact does it have on their daily life? Their (possibly) previously monogomous relationship? I love me some angst :)

  9. Great post, Bianca. I'm a big fan of unconventional relationships as well, I love all the angst and emotional turmoil they bring to everyone involved. Makes for a great story.

  10. I like your controversial ways, Bianca. Don't stop. If menage is what works for you as a writer then go for it. Writing what we don't believe in tends to come out sucky anyway :)

  11. Angst is just so yummy! No matter what genre, I think a topping of angst (the right kind, anyway) just adds so much to a story. Twist some very real emotions with a kick ass plot and Ta Da! You've got yourself a story.

    Yes. I am dreaming ;p

    Now, let's see. I suppose, now a days, the big bad 'Industry' things romances have to have HEA. But a lot of the classics have tragic endings, don't they? I see romance as a story where the core relationship is integral to the story-or something like that. The lovers don't have to be happy in the end, but at some point, I need to have felt that connection so strongly that I'll be sad if they don't end up together.

    And cliffhangers-yep, love those. So long as there's a sequel. Another thing I love.

    Thanks for all your comments! A lot of you have helped expose me to my true, writerly self. And taught me to hold my head up high when I say 'Yes, I write romantic gang bangs and yes, a gang bang can be romantic!' ;)