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REAL WOMEN DO HAVE CURVES!!It wasn't just a good movie from a few years back staring America Ferrera, it's the simple truth!!
Full Figured, Voluptuous, Big & Beautiful, Big Boned, Thick or Plus Sized... call them what you will... ahem, correction, call US what you will, we are all that and more. We are nowhere near a size six nor do we want to be, we are happy, passionate, intelligent, bodacious, and we are here to stay!!
WE are REAL women, with REAL issues and a whole lot to say!!!
Considering I was watching the award show with my 16-year-old daughter, I was a little worried.
At first, I was concerned for the actress and hoped she was well and just preparing for a movie role that required the, in my opinion, "dangerously thin" appearance.
Then I worried about what my daughter thought seeing a famous role-model appearing as she did.
It ended up being a terrific opening for conversation.
She (my daughter) and her friends deal with the same things most high school kids do, and weight is most definitely a big issue for far too many girls her age.
My daughter comes from a long line of full-figured women and though I want her happy, I want her healthy, too.
I do my part by encouraging exercise and proper diet, but most of all, I do what I can to keep her attitude and view of herself emotionally healthy and positive.
As an author, I have an obligation to give readers what they want, but as a woman... a plus-sized woman, I have an obligation to create heroines who are real and represent women in a positive light. I think I have done that, with the one exception of creating a heroine more like myself.
There really aren't enough romance novels out there with full figured heroines, but that IS changing!!
I plan to do my part by writing more responsibly and I even have plans to create a BBW (big, beautiful woman) or two in future books and NOT just as a sidekick to the main heroine!!.
I mean, let's get real for a minute. Most women have curves, especially American women.
We hear about it on the news every day.
Did you know that there are countries that hold plus-sized women in higher regard and actually chastise the skinny-minis? If you don't believe me, rent the comedy, "Phat Girls", starring Mo'Nique.
*Spoiler alert* Mo'Nique's character, an up and coming clothes designer, didn't lose out to the tall, thin super-model of the movie. She got her man and she did it by being herself and allowing someone to see her for who she really was. Yeah, it was a movie, but the message was loud and clear.
Isn't that how we should all be anyway? Be ourselves?
Look, I will never be a size six and I will never be the prettiest one n the room, but that doesn't mean, I'm not beautiful and can't be sexy.
I am a sensual being, and as a woman, I hold the greatest power of all in the palm of my hands. *wink wink!
I am confident, strong and a survivor!! Three very important qualities for any woman.
I've been gawked at, laughed at and ridiculed for my size, but hey...I'm here and I AM a WOMAN!! A Big, Beautiful Woman!
I'm not ashamed of the "label" and I'm not going to apologize for being plus-sized anymore than a super model should apologize for being the way she is.
I hope that my daughters see that they are beautiful inside and out, no matter the package they're in.
All little girls should be comfortable in their own skin and it's up to me to make sure that whatever negative images threaten their self-esteem are countered with positive images to reassure them that they are perfect just the way they are!!
If you know of a book or a movie that depicts REAL women in positive ways, please feel free to share the titles and/or links in the comment section below.
If this post has struck a nerve, by all means, share what's on your mind!
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